Happy Wedding Wednesday Everyone!! Every now and then we will take a break away from all the pretty things, flowers and dresses to discuss the real deal: MARRIAGE. To help facilitate this I like to feature couples of color who are married and share what marriage means to them. Meet Terin & Latoyia Smith who met at UGA and have just celebrated 8 years of marriage and our parents to 4 year old Elyse. Read along as they tell us how they face challenges and if marriage is what they thought it would be.
Latoyia & Terin on their wedding day May 21, 2005
How did you meet?
Latoyia : We met at the University of Georgia. We were both enrolled in a Hip Hop class, and were both trying to find the classroom when we ran into each other.
Terin: We met at college (UGA) in our hip hop class.
How long have you been married?
Latoyia: We just celebrated our 8th anniversary on May 21, 2013.
Terin: 8 years (just wanted to make sure he knew too, lol)
What attracted you to each other and how did you know you wanted to be him/her forever?
Latoyia: When Terin and I started talking and hanging out, the first thing that attracted me to him was how down to earth he was. He also was (and still is) a great cook. We also liked the same basketball teams.
Terin: I was attracted to her class and intelligence. I knew when she showed me her values through Godly actions on a daily basis.
Is marriage what you thought it would be?
Latoyia: Marriage is more than what I thought it would be! I think many of us have a very romanticized view of what marriage is based on what we’ve seen in the movies and heard about in stories. In real life, there is romance in marriage, but there is also a lot of hard work, compromise, and growth. As a married person, your top concern can no longer be “me”, but has to become “we.”
Terin: Yes and no. Yes because I’m with the person I want and chose to be with for the rest of my life. No because no one really tells you how much work marriage is. And if they did, you probably didn’t listen. Learning each other’s strengths and weaknesses can be a real challenge.
What if any, challenges have you had to face?
Latoyia: We, like any other married couple have had to face many challenges. I think the most difficult one is an ongoing one-and that is realizing that you didn’t get married to get everything the way you want it. By that I mean, you have to share and compromise on EVERYTHING! Being that Terin and I are complete opposites in a LOT of ways, trying to make sure that both are needs are met is always a challenge, but one that we are up to!
Terin: I had to face Latoyia and my differences and make a conscious decision to do what’s best for our family, regardless who is right or wrong.
What do you do for fun as a couple?
Latoyia: For fun we watch movies (and dissect them afterwards), play board games. We are both foodies, so we love to travel and eat!
Terin: Travel and play board games.
Thanks so much to Terin & Latoyia for giving us a snapshot of their marriage..I hope someone was inspired today!
If you or someone you know would like to be featured in the Then Comes Marriage segment on the site please get in touch with me.